Have you ever seen the old Seinfeld episode with the ‘close talker’? The character, Aaron is played by Judge Reinhold. The guy is friendly and seems to not understand the meaning of ‘personal space’. Aaron stands very close to people and it makes them uncomfortable. He’s a nice guy but the ‘close talking’ is disconcerting.

I had an odd experience the other day. I was with a friend at her office when a couple of her clients came in. They are brothers and I have met them before.

As they entered the office and said their hellos, Matt walked over to me, said hello and then started asking about my hair.

“Oh, you’ve done something different to your hair. New color?”

I had no time to answer, as the next thing I know, he’s got his hands all over my hair! Touching, fluffing, and even turning me so that he could examine the back!

What the H*!!? AND like a complete idiot, I just stood there like a deer in the headlights.

My friend must have seen my dismay as she said “Matt used to be a hairdresser!” LOL thanks for the input, at least now I have a ‘reason’ for his interest in my hair.

As they stepped over to speak with my friend, I sat down and ruminated over what had just transpired. In this day and age of “ #MeToo ” what does this guy not get? I am not equating this to sexual molestation, harassment or assault. It was simply a slightly uncomfortable and disarming situation.

Furthermore, what was up with me? I didn’t slap his hand, step back, tell him to back off, nothing. Yep, I did nothing. Shock is the only thing to which I can attribute my non-response.

This was an innocent encounter. One could say that my hair looked so fantastic and I am so bewitchingly lovely that the poor man couldn’t help himself! In that case, I better come up with a plan for anything that might come my way in the future.

1. Have funny remarks and snappy comebacks at the ready. Maybe say “Hey Dude, #MeToo!”, “Wow, can I touch you too?” “I’d say nice hair if you had any.”

2. Be prepared to fend off advances and invasion of personal space. Remember that you have a brown belt in karate and even though it has been years, you do know what to do.

3. Just walk away.

Guess I need to do a little more research . . .

Who knew that attractive, beautiful, lovely older women have to be prepared for unwanted advances too?

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